What else are you voting for?

In my last post, I asked you to pay attention to what you are voting for with regards to the external things you support, such as television programs, stores, products, etc. Today I would like to talk about what you are voting for internally. In all my years of practice as a Social Worker, Therapist, and Coach, I have found that the most troubling issue for people is their mindset and internal dialogue. This one area of concern can manifest itself in both positive and negative manners, but many people do not recognize the pure power that a simple adjustment can make in their lives. For example, a person who comes to see me because they are suffering from depression can experience an immediate shift in their mood just by simply practicing the expression of gratitude on a daily basis. A person with anxiety can experience an equally impressive shift simply by learning how to control their thoughts by slowing them down and questioning the true validity of their thoughts. As we humans are creatures of habit, we usually think the same thoughts over and over again. If you are not a thought-conscious person, it is likely that the thoughts that you are having today are essentially the same thoughts you had yesterday, last month, and last year, with only slight variations. Getting a little more scientific, each thought that you have creates a neuro-pathway in your brain and they remain present in your subconscious mind. Think of your subconscious mind as your water supply. Would you want to have your water supply muddled with poisons and toxins or...

What Are You Voting For?

My last post had to do with gaining control over what you feed your mind and limiting negative information. By now, you are probably more aware of all of the information that bombards us on a daily basis, even when we don’t go out looking for it. However, let’s take this idea one step further. I saw a very interesting post on the No More Negative News fan page on Facebook. Someone asked whether or not people feel that the news reports negative information because that’s what they want to report, or if they report the negative news because that’s what the viewers want. I, of course, believe that it is the latter. In fact, I believe that every time you watch any television program, visit any internet website, read any periodical, read any book, or purchase any product (just for a few examples), you are voting for that program/website/periodical/book/product. If there were no viewers of the negative news, there would be no sense in them broadcasting it. If people don’t put their money and energy into something, it goes away. In contrast, what you put your money and energy into expands. So what are you expanding? Do you know who produces the products you purchase and what causes those companies support? Your money (energy) is supporting whatever you direct it to. Start paying attention this week to what you are voting for. Ask yourself if these things are in alignment with your values and beliefs. If they are not, decide not to support them and seek those that...

What Are You Feeding Your Mind?

Our nation is facing many health epidemics, including a rise in the number of people who suffer from obesity, heart disease, cancer, and diabetes, to name a few. The culprit: poor diet, lack of exercise, and inability to understand the key ingredients to proper nutrition. I believe that our nation is also facing an information epidemic, causing an increase in the number of people who suffer from negative thoughts/beliefs, fear, low self-esteem, poor concentration, and lack of creativity, amongst other things. We are constantly bombarded with information, both on the conscious and subconscious levels. Just for one day, try to notice all of the headlines, commercials, news programs, radio shows, emails, online ads, magazines & newspapers, junk mail, etc. that you are exposed to. It is staggering how much information is out there and how much of it comes into your consciousness and pollutes your mind every day. What if you were to shut some of that information out? It probably isn’t possible to shut all of it out, unless maybe you live in an igloo in Antarctica, but there are some things you absolutely have control over. One great example is the news. Many people fret when I bring up the suggestion to quit watching the news and/or reading the newspaper. However, what I have found is that in the last couple of years since I stopped doing so, I have remained every bit as informed as the next person about what’s going on around the nation and around the world. Remember, there is a constant influx of information that you are exposed to every day. You will...

Is Your Business Plan Working for You?

Entrepreneurship and business ownership can be daunting if you haven’t carefully created a business plan that is in alignment with the reasons that you became an entrepreneur/business owner to begin with. Sometimes we get caught up in doing what we love and waiting for the money to follow. Unfortunately, we can often lose some of the excitement about what we are doing because it begins to consume every waking moment of our lives. Here are a couple of quick points that can help you get back on track: 1. What type of business do you have (or are you interested in creating)? Does it require a physical location for clients/customers to visit or is it strictly virtual? Do you interact directly with your clients/customers or do you do so indirectly through information products or through hiring employees and managers? How much of your time does this part of your business require? 2. Review your mission statement, values, and goals to see if they are in alignment with what you are actually doing in your business and how you and your business are showing up in the world. 3. Revisit your original vision for your company. Is your company on the right track or has it taken a turn in the wrong direction? If part of your vision was to have your company produce residual income but you haven’t been able to take a day off in 6 months, you should look at ways to streamline some of the tasks at hand. Are there any that can be automated, such as financial transactions? Are there any that you could delegate...

Thanksgiving

This is the season of giving; giving to others, giving thanks, spreading the cheer. However, many of us get caught up in the holiday frenzy and really lose sight of what this season, and really what every day, is really all about: Gratitude. It doesn’t take a holiday to slow down, even just for a few minutes each day, and to express gratitude. What are you grateful for? This is not a trick question. It is not a comparison of material worth. It is not even a question that you have to answer out loud or in front of your family while sitting around the dinner table on Thanksgiving. Answer it for yourself. Let the Universe know. Let God know. Let yourself know. What are you grateful for? Ask yourself this question every day and watch what happens. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving...

What do you do for a living?

It is always interesting to meet new people and it is almost inevitable that the conversation will lead to the question, “So, what do you do for a living?” For those who are employed, this is not a difficult question to answer and it generally does not seem to be one that requires much thought or preparation. Imagine the conversation: Person 1: “So what do you do for a living?” Person 2: ” I’m a waitress. How about you?”……………………and so on. For the entrepreneur, the same question, “So, what do you do for a living?”, can be daunting! I have heard many entrepreneurs struggle when asked this question. This very question can mean gaining a potential new client or business contact or potentially losing one. This is a question that rolls through the new entrepreneur’s mind over and over like a broken record while on the way to a networking event. It is the one that causes people who appear perfectly sane and competent to suddenly break out into a frenzy and stumble upon their every word. It all goes back to that old cliché, “you only have one chance to make a first impression”. How do you convey this message to others, especially to your prospects? What does a successful response look like? Think about the dream that lead you to become an entrepreneur (or the one that is urging you to do so). What is the passionate part of that dream? What is the part that compels you to take action? Write those down.  What do you want people to know about you and how can you...

Back in the swing of things

Wow – it has been a little over four months since my last post! You might have been wondering if I was abducted by aliens (it could kind of be seen that way), or maybe was traveling the world (well, part of it anyway). Actually, I was busy attaining one of my goals, which was to move back to the Washington D.C. area again. Many people are surprised and amazed about how quickly and easily I make life changes. The coaching organization that I am very much a part of, Compass, has a promotion this month called, “Don’t just dream it, Do it!” That’s exactly how I choose to live and I love to help others with similar intentions to do the same!Here we are in the middle of the year again. Have you kept up with your New Year’s resolutions or will you be recycling the list come this year’s end? What are your dreams and goals? Are you living them today or at least taking small steps toward them ? If you’re not, what will it take for you to do so? Who do you need to support you?One of my favorite quotes from Bert Oliva sums it up, “Live life, don’t let life live...

Why Am I So Passionate about Life?

I am so happy to be alive and especially now! I can’t say that I always felt the same way, but have gotten to where I am now because of all of my life’s experience, both good and bad. I decided to become a coach back in 2005 when I was working as a child sexual abuse investigator. My husband and I weren’t married yet but were planning our wedding. We had recently purchased a townhouse and life was good. One day before our wedding, both of my parents flew out to be with us for our wedding day. My parents had been divorced for over twenty years, but since they booked rooms in the same hotel, they spent that evening reminiscing and truly enjoying each other’s company for the first time in decades. The next morning, my mom and daughter left to get their nails done for the wedding. My soon-to-be husband, my father, my son and I began to take things in to the clubhouse where the reception would be later that evening. Not more than 15 minutes later, my father collapsed and died. Why would I tell such a story to complete strangers, you might ask? I am telling you because I truly care about you and want you to feel the profound joy for life that I experience every day. My father’s death sent me into a whole new direction and really made me ask myself, “What is my true purpose?” Of course I had heard people tell me before that I should appreciate each day as if it were my last, but I didn’t...

Welcome to the world of blogging!

This is my very first blog post of my very first blog. Definitely a learning curve for me here! I am excited to present to you my coaching practice, Efflorescence Coaching & Consulting, where I offer life purpose and business coaching for entrepreneurs and others who are interested, both in English and in Spanish. I am still working on my website but am forging...